There is a field
Where fragrance is born
There is he
If the rate of suicide increases in any society, blame yourself for that and know that someone wants to talk to me, wants to share his/her suffering with me but I don’t have any time to listen.
Today is the 15th World Suicide Prevention Day. It is held every year on 10th of September in order to stand with the people who are, not yet, able to see the beauty of this life. Every year 800,000 people end their life by suicide and there is 1 suicide every 40 seconds across the globe. The theme of this year is amazing and very similar to what Ashfaq Ahmed Sahab said years ago. It says;
“Take a minute, change a life.”
The theme encourages everyone to spare a moment for those who are struggling, specially those who might not be very well connected to the society or even isolated. Spare a moment, check in and listen. Give them your ears, they are waiting for you. Research shows that 2/3 people inform before they commit suicide. And that is why strong family system and good social connections serve as protective factors. I also want to tell that we see a lot of patients with suicidal ideation, mostly with moderate to severe depression and when I ask do you think this life is worth living? They say not at all and when I ask do you ever plan to end your life? They say I would have ended my life uptil now but because it is haram (prohibited) in Islam, I haven’t. Alhamdulillah for a religion like that. Allah says in Surah Al-Nisa that;
“Don’t kill yourself. No doubt Allah (swt) is merciful and anyone who does so, will be punished in fire. And it is easy for Allah.
Subhan Allah. In this verse, Allah is reminding us that don’t end this beautiful life that I have gifted you and reminding us clearly that He is merciful. He will fix everything eventually. As I always say, even the bad things, happen for a good reason. We just have to keep going, with trust. And in the next verse, He is then warning the person that if you still want to do it, know that I will punish you. Can you see the love behind this threat? Like our parents do when we are not listening to them and they want to safe us in every way, possible or impossible? A love like that. Alhamdulillah.
Now the question is do we have a minute to listen to the people who need us?? Listen in a non-judgement and empathic way. Let them share in whatever way they want. World is a beautiful place. It is more beautiful when we are all connected through love. Shams Tabrizi says that we are all connected in a circle. So it is not the suffering of a single person, it is always a mutual suffering. Show people that you love. Listen.
Because taking out a minute can save a life.
Love and spread love.
An intellectual is all the time showing off,
Lovers dissolve and become bewildered.
Intellectuals try not to drown,
While the whole purpose of love is drowning.
Intellectuals invent ways to rest,
then lie down in those beds.
Lovers feel ashamed of comforting ideas.
You have seen a glob of oil on water?
That is how a lover is with intellectuals, there, but alone in a circle of himself.
Some intellectual tries to give sound advice to a lover,
All he hears back is, I love you, I love you.
Love is musk.
Do not deny it when you smell the scent.
Love is a tree.
Lovers, the shade under the long branches.
To the intellectual mind,
A child must grow up and learn to be an adult.
In the station of love,
You see old men getting younger and younger.
Shams chose to live low in the roots for you,
So now, he soars in the air
as your sublimely articulating love.
From The Big Red Book
By Coleman Barks
I am a seeker and I feel like my life has just started off, btw I am 26 now. So I was just wondering what is the purpose of this life. It could not be only education, job, marriage and family because that’s what animals do too and in a better way than us than why were humans created in the first place? I belong to a Muslim family Alhamdulillah so I always thought that to worship Allah is the purpose of this life. But to offer prayer five times a day, to recite Quran and to spread peace and love and make a better community, is that all? That kind of satisfies my question in a way but not completely.
It’s been a year that I have started to change as a person, my way of thinking is changing and I can now better see my flaws. Lol that’s all I have achieved so far and that too in a very immature way. So today me and my papa was watching news and one news particularly caught my papa’s attention, it was about some fake Peer (spiritual guide). My papa is not into sufism and he thinks that Allah, His Prophet SAW and Quran is all that we need for guidance. I agree with him but I also believe in finding a friend that holds the key for my lock, as Rumi says. To teach me about Allah is not primarily the purpose of that friend, but to connect me with Allah could be. Someone who should help me in finding my real self and Allah. Someone who can help me feel His presence when I am praying and when I am not. That is what that friend is here for. I feel so relieved lol yes relieved, to know that I am lacking love in my life (Btw I am not seeking any love relationship lol, not atleast in near future). I got to know that this feeling no more exists in my life and there are moments like these when Rumi comes like the fragnance of a rose. This time He said;
“I did not come to teach you.
I came to love you.
Love will teach you.“
Because when there is Rumi, there is Shams lol excuse my not so good sense of humor, just wanted to quote a saying of Shams Tabrizi here;
“Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually it is best to find a person, the person who will be your mirror. Remember, only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you.“
But yes to keep that incident in mind, I also want you to remind what Shams Tabrizi says about that;
“There are more fake gurus and false teachers in this world than the number of stars in the visible universe. Don’t confuse power-driven, self- centered people with true mentors. A genuine spiritual master will not direct your attention to himself or herself and will not expect absolute obedience or utter admiration from you, but instead will help you to appreciate and admire your inner self. True mentors are as transparent as glass. They let the light of God pass through them.”
I read somewhere that Allah created us from His Noor (light). I believe the purpose of this life is to restore that relation with Allah. I think before sending us to this world, He erased all those memories that we have with Him. And now it is our purpose to bring back all those memories (Khuwaja Shams-uddin-Azeemi said something like that if I am not mistaking). The difference is that we have been given so many distractions here which makes this task even more difficult. So in short this life is all about;
“From Allah, WITH ALLAH, to Allah”
This is how I think. I might be wrong or I might be wrong for someone and not for myself or vice versa. I also believe in improvement.
This life is all about wanting and intentions. If I want something, I will eventually get it. If money is my priority,I will get it sooner or later. But I won’t get what I never wanted. After getting money, I can’t complain about lack of mental piece or anything other than money. If today I am not choosing love, honesty and pure emotions, tomorrow I won’t be able to complain for the lack of all these things. It’s all about wanting. But it is also about intentions. If my intentions are pure, I will get what I want in the best way possible. If my intentions are not pure, I will not get satisfaction out of it, even after getting the best. For example if I want to make some relationship and I am not giving my efforts, like I want it but my efforts are not honest, may be today I will succeed in getting it but tomorrow it won’t be as I wanted it to be. Allah not only gives us what we want, but also gives it in our version. He knows what is it in my heart and I can’t lie to Him. Otherwise what I want also wants me. (Shams Tabrizi)
You attain to knowledge by argument.
You attain a craft or skill by practice.
If what you want is righteous poverty,
that’s won by sohbat (companionship), not by hand or tongue.
The knowledge of it passes soul to soul,
not by way of talk or reams of notes.
Although it’s signs are in the seeker’s heart,
the seeker does not learn to read those signs
until his heart becomes exposed to light.
Then God reveals: “Did We not expose? [Surah Ash-Sharh, 94:1]
for We have exposed the chambers of your breast
and placed that exposition in your heart.
-Rumi: Swallowing the Sun
Do not worry about the tricks and cheat. If some people are trying to trap and hurt you, God is also trapping them. Hole diggers fell in their holes. No bad remains non-punished, no good remains non-awarded. Have faith in justice and let the rest be.
I think it’s human nature to trust other humans and put some hope in others. In my whole life, whenever I associated my hopes with the other person, I ended up with a broken heart. Every time I broke harder than the last time. Just before a year or two, I thought to myself that now it’s enough and I won’t expect anything from anyone. But doing it practically, was almost impossible for me. I think that’s because when there is love, there is hope. Whether it’s your friend, sibling or relative, it feels bad when you get nothing in response of your love. So should we stop trusting others in the first place? or should we learn to love without expectations? I found my answer in this quote. I don’t know what this quote is to you but to me, it means “Put your trust in God and then trust a human.”
Isn’t it great? When I was asking whether I should trust a human or not, I was actually worried about the outcome. But when I forget about the outcome, when I put all my hopes in God and believe that He is the one who will take care of me and my affairs, I don’t find any reason to stop trusting humans. So we should always listen to our hearts and love and trust as much as we can and let the rest be. May Allah help you with all your affairs. Ameen.