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Take a Minute, Change a Life!

Don’t be sad! Because God sends hope in the most desperate moments. Don’t forget, the heaviest rain comes out of the darkest clouds. ~Rumi

If the rate of suicide increases in any society, blame yourself for that and know that someone wants to talk to me, wants to share his/her suffering with me but I don’t have any time to listen.

Ashfaq Ahmed

Today is the 15th World Suicide Prevention Day. It is held every year on 10th of September in order to stand with the people who are, not yet, able to see the beauty of this life. Every year 800,000 people end their life by suicide and there is 1 suicide every 40 seconds across the globe. The theme of this year is amazing and very similar to what Ashfaq Ahmed Sahab said years ago. It says;

“Take a minute, change a life.”

The theme encourages everyone to spare a moment for those who are struggling, specially those who might not be very well connected to the society or even isolated. Spare a moment, check in and listen. Give them your ears, they are waiting for you. Research shows that 2/3 people inform before they commit suicide. And that is why strong family system and good social connections serve as protective factors. I also want to tell that we see a lot of patients with suicidal ideation, mostly with moderate to severe depression and when I ask do you think this life is worth living? They say not at all and when I ask do you ever plan to end your life? They say I would have ended my life uptil now but because it is haram (prohibited) in Islam, I haven’t. Alhamdulillah for a religion like that. Allah says in Surah Al-Nisa that;

“Don’t kill yourself. No doubt Allah (swt) is merciful and anyone who does so, will be punished in fire. And it is easy for Allah.

Surah An-Nisa

4:29-30

Subhan Allah. In this verse, Allah is reminding us that don’t end this beautiful life that I have gifted you and reminding us clearly that He is merciful. He will fix everything eventually. As I always say, even the bad things, happen for a good reason. We just have to keep going, with trust. And in the next verse, He is then warning the person that if you still want to do it, know that I will punish you. Can you see the love behind this threat? Like our parents do when we are not listening to them and they want to safe us in every way, possible or impossible? A love like that. Alhamdulillah.

Now the question is do we have a minute to listen to the people who need us?? Listen in a non-judgement and empathic way. Let them share in whatever way they want. World is a beautiful place. It is more beautiful when we are all connected through love. Shams Tabrizi says that we are all connected in a circle. So it is not the suffering of a single person, it is always a mutual suffering. Show people that you love. Listen.

Because taking out a minute can save a life. 

Love and spread love.

©2017 Parus

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Happy Independence Day??

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Phandar, Ghizer, Gilgit Baltistan, Pakistan.

When I don’t do my job with sincerity and honesty, I deceive my people and my country.

When I mix pure milk with water, I deceive my people and my country.

When I say it’s 1 kg and it is 0.80 kg, I deceive my people and my country.

When I feed people in my restaurant with expired food, cheap oil and dead chickens and occasionally with lizards and rats, I deceive my people and my country.

When I am happy and excited about Eid so much that I raise the rates of everything; fruits, vegetables, meats and clothes, I deceive my people and my country.

When I bunk my classes, I deceive my people and my country.

When I snatch mobile without thinking how hard he must have worked to get that mobile, I deceive my people and my country.

When I kill a person who was going to get married tomorrow, or who just got his degree and was so excited about his upcoming life, who was planning to spend his vacations in Murree, or who was the only earner in his family, I deceive my people and my country.

When I am passing time with a girl/boy with no intention of commitment, I am deceiving my people and my country.

When I start to smoke cigarette and weed because it looks cool, I deceive my people and my country.

When I cast my vote, not to make a good government for me and my people but a government of my people and my caste, I deceive my people and my country.

When I only blame my government and do nothing as a citizen, I deceive my people and my country.

Do we really have any right to celebrate this day? Or is it really a happy independence day for us? I don’t know. I have better things to do than to think about my people and my country. But I can formally pass my love to all those who fought for Pakistan’s independence and for all those who are still fighting. May Allah make us a better human so that we can be a better citizen and make this country a better country. May peace prevail on this planet Earth. Ameen.

 

Wilting Flowers

Wilting Flowers
Since yesterday, the biggest talk of the town is none other than the suicide act of two teenager school students who committed suicide because their parents had not allowed them to get married. I mean at the age of hardly 16, with no degree in hand, they wanted to get married? Is that what we are teaching our children? Why the parents are not keeping a check on their children when they are spending their whole day on TV and internet? Why are we letting our children to get influenced by media? Where are the parents of our nation?
Teens are falling in love, school going children are talking about sex, boys are cheating on girls,
girls are showing off their bodies, a 12 year old guy is supporting gay marriages, teens are attempting suicide. What the hell is going on in our society?? I still remember the time when my 13 year old sister was in 6th grade and she told me that her class fellow broke up with her
boyfriend and I was like when I was of her age I could not even tie my hair.
What are we doing about it? Nothing. No one seems to care about it.
We only know one thing that whenever such thing happens, put all the blame on International media and you have done your duty. And that’s right too. What else do you expect from children who grow up watching intimate scenes and item numbers? But unfortunately
International media is not the only culprit now, some Pakistani movies are just heading of in the same direction. Item numbers, useless love stories, short clothes and Indian inspired personalities? Wake up everyone. This is not us. This is not our values.
It’s time to take a stand. We need to change our system. We need to change a lot of things but before that we need to change ourselves. We need to focus on the education system of our country that is promoting love stories more than education. We need to understand that education is not just making a child cram their text books, it is much more than that. It is about making a child so strong that he can differentiate between what’s good and what’s bad. It is about teaching them our values, moral as well as Islamic values.
All the bad things are happening due to the combined effects of media and lack of our Islamic and moral values. I totally agree with Will smith’s last Facebook status which says,
                            “Our world is officially broken. It’s time to take a stand.”